Language of Love E1

Let's ask ourselves this and be honest in your evaluation.

Do we love the person the way they are or do we love the ideal version of them that we have in our minds.

if it's the second case there might be a lot of issues that keep coming up.

Every single individual has their wishes and interests like The dresses they love to wear, the places they frequent to and the things they like to experience etc..

So when we start putting certain conditions and start controlling what they can do and what they can't it starts leading to so many fights.

Put yourselves in their perspective. Would you ever enjoy anyone restricting your freedom and dictating your daily routines. Ofcourse not.

So what can you do? Establish your boundaries and red lines early and see if the other person is ok with it and know about the others person's boundaries too.

What if you already in a relationship and struggling with this now. It is time to have a talk with your partner and express ur discomfort with certain things respectfully and they will express some of theirs to u.

Learn to agree to disagree on things. Respect and love go hand in hand.

See if it now works for you. If it still doesn't and their behaviour triggers you learn to let go and walk away.

Getting aggressive and controlling is a good way to make your own life and ur partners life hell for a long time. It is all in the way how u express ur concerns and how u are able to deal with things that u aren't comfortable with.

Life is short so let ppl live the way they wanna live. Live and let live❤️